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Shaima Alawadi: A victim of hate crime?

If the facts of this case are being reported accurately, this crime is deplorable. (see link of new article http://news.yahoo.com/fbi-assisting-murder-investigation-iraqi-woman-043721673.html) The ultimate question in this case, just as the daughter of Shaima Alawadi has asked, is “WHY?”  Why would anyone attack a housewife and mother of five so brutally and leave her to die?

The Alawadi family is from Iraq and lives in EL Cajon, California.  They are one of several thousands of families who live in this area. Hopefully the involvement of the FBI will help this family and community find some answers to this sad and “Un-American” tragedy.

Geraldo Rivera: Are You Crazy?

It is unfortunate that a man in a newsworthy position such as Geraldo Rivera uses his position to make foolish, and what I believe to be, ignorant statements regarding a tragedy that led to a child’s untimely death. ( See http://latino.foxnews.com/latino/politics/2012/03/23/trayvon-martins-hoodie-and-george-zimmerman-share-blame/)

Under Geraldo Rivera’s hypothesis that he vocally stated on the air and in writing, Trayvon Martin would not have died but for his….hoodie???

No…in my opinion this is far from accurate.  Trayvon Martin’s death is an example of race relation issues that still exist in this country today.  Trayvon Martin’s death was caused by a man with a gun who ignored the advice of a 911 dispatcher and took what he thought was the law into his own hands.  However, Trayvon Martin had done nothing wrong and the law had no reason to be invoked.

I am disheartened by the ignorant comment made by Geraldo Rivera regarding the child’s choice in clothing being the cause of his death and not the man that shot him.  We teach children not to judge a book by its cover and it is a sad day when an adult cannot follow this simple lesson.  Clothing does not dictate who a person is on the inside but is simply a form of free expression and protecting you from the elements of the weather; a hoodie is a form of protection from the rain, and yes Geraldo Rivera it was raining.

 

 

 

Trayvon Martin: A Child is Dead.

No matter what happens in this case a child is dead. He is dead because an individual is claiming he was acting in self-defense when he shot and killed Trayvon Martin. Not only do you have a dead child, but you also have a community that is outraged; when that child was killed no immediate action was taken by the police, and as a result the State Attorney's Office has not been able to open a case against Mr. Zimmerman. Currently, there is an ongoing investigation about the shooting and it will be sent to a grand jury to see if there is enough evidence against Mr. Zimmerman to proceed.

This is a situation that can get out of control very quickly if the appropriate action is not taken in a reasonable time period.  The city of Sanford has been, and will continue, to face tough scrutiny if appropriate measures are not taken.

How would you feel if your child was killed and the person who was responsible for the shooting is walking free?

Why do the kids suffer?

As a Family Law Attorney I see many things that would shock the average person. However, no matter how often I see people at their worst, it always makes me feel sad that my clients are in such a down place.  Generally, the minor child or children face the brunt of the punishment/abuse. A few days ago I saw another typical story of 2 adults ( not “parents”) who allegedly treated their children in such a way that would shock the average person.

I guess my problem with the situation is people should not have kids if they are not ready to take care of them, because in the end it is not the adult who suffers, but it is the child that suffers.  So if you are in a situation where you have a child or children and you need help, you should ask a family member or a local organization for assistance.

See article at : (http://www.google.com/hostednews/ap/article/ALeqM5hpx3u6-sxuLbOW-RZtmLjMb1Gp7A?docId=0aa6f84f375846c9934e4e4940625442)
Police: Fla. couple kept boy locked in closet

(AP)

TITUSVILLE, Fla. (AP) — When Florida police checked out a child abuse report, they found an emaciated boy lying on the floor inside a locked bathroom at his home, apparently punished for stealing food. The boy was rushed to the hospital where workers said he resembled a concentration camp survivor, and they treated him for malnutrition and dehydration.

The 12-year-old boy's father and his girlfriend have been charged with aggravated child abuse and child neglect. Two other kids at the home have been removed as child welfare officials investigate.

According to a police report, the boy — weighing just 40 pounds — was locked in a bathroom, strapped to a bed or caged in a closet for days or weeks at a time over the past year.

Brevard County Jail records show 38-year-old Michael Marshall and 48-year-old Sharon Glass have been charged with three counts each of aggravated child abuse and three counts each of child neglect. A judge ordered both be held without bond. It is not immediately clear if they have an attorney.

The Titusville Police Department received a report of a young child being unlawfully caged and suffering from abuse, though the report doesn't spell out whether there was a cage inside the closet. Authorities in Titusville have not returned telephone calls from The Associated Press.

Marshall is the father of the 12-year-old boy and a 10-year-old girl. Glass is the mother of the 5 year-old boy.

The two other children at the home were being seen by doctors, said Carrie Hoeppner, spokeswoman for the Florida Department of Children and Families.

"No doubt that the younger two have been subjected to mental abuse," Hoeppner said.

Marshall also has a 17-year-old son with his ex-wife, Lisa Minshall, 36, who lives in southwestern Ohio. She said her son was still an infant when she and Marshall divorced, and Marshall hasn't seen him since he was 3.

"I kind of feel sick, and I'm kind of happy that that situation didn't happen to me and my son," Minshall said. "If I would have stayed around long enough, he probably would have been abusive to his first son."

Marshall was arrested on a criminal domestic violence charge in Ohio in 1995, records showed. It wasn't immediately clear whether he was convicted.

Welfare officials investigated neglect and concerns about the home environment in the summer of 2010. Once the investigation was closed, the boy was taken out of school and went "unnoticed for so long," Hoeppner said. There were no other reports from the home or contact between welfare officials and the couple.

Brevard Public Schools spokeswoman Christine Davis said the boy was removed from the system for homeschooling in August 2010. Records shows the boy was moved to a private school less than two months later, but the name of the private school wasn't listed.

The couple's home is located in Titusville, about 40 miles east of Orlando on the coast. The town was known as a good place to watch space shuttle launches at Cape Canaveral.

Myrtle Wilcox, a neighbor, said she hadn't seen the boy since November, when he was outside on the front lawn playing with a dog.

"The boy looked to be about 8- or 10-years-old," Wilcox said.

She said he was slender but nothing seemed wrong.

On Christmas Eve, Wilcox said Marshall had come over to get help jumping a car. He and his girlfriend wanted to go to a store to buy last minute gifts for their children.

"Just ordinary people," Wilcox said. "Going to work and tending to their own business and taking care of their family. That's the only thing I could assume about them."

“I hurt the woman I said I loved and I am sorry and I hope that one day she does forgive me"

As a Family Law attorney I see EVERYTHING. One particular area of the law I see often in my practice  is “domestic violence.”  Domestic Violence is not only a serious offense but it is also pervasive in our society. There are a surprising number of cases in which a spouse is physically abused by the other spouse. Unfortunately, I was not surprised when I heard about the case where a husband attacked his former wife in the judge’s chambers during a divorce proceeding.  Although the husband needs counseling and help for his behavior, it was no surprise that the husband received 15 years for his actions. As the judge stated, “It was in a court of law where people for hundreds of years have been coming to peaceably resolve

their disputes where people have an expectation of safety — certainly where your former wife thought

she would be safe,” Cohen told Gonzalez during sentencing. “You chose it as a place to viciously assault her.”

 

If you ever find yourself or a loved one in a situation where violence is taking place, please make sure you seek HELP.

See Daily News Article:

http://www.nydailynews.com/topics/Catherine%20Scott

 

"The Art of Racing in the Rain"

My wife and I lead very busy lives like many couples. One thing we like to do as a couple is read books out loud to each other. (I guess it must be the teachers in us.) We recently read a book that was on point in my field of work: “The Art of Racing in the Rain” by Garth Stein. If you would like a quick read that brings to life the world of a dog from his/her perspective, this would be a great book. My wife and I enjoyed the book thoroughly because it involved the life of a dog, “family issues,” and the “legal system.” We initially did not realize this would be a book dealing with child custody issues but as we read page by page the realization was clear. The author did an excellent job crafting this book in terms of making the reader connect with the characters and provided an excellent glimpse of what can take place in a custody battle. I would highly recommend this book to any animal lover.

Race, Religion, Politics and Gay Marriage!!!

This is an interesting article from the Associated Press, when it comes to  Race, Religion, Politics and Gay Marriage.  With Maryland becoming another state allowing gay marriage, how will it affect the 2012 election, not just on the national level but also at the state level? I guess time will tell.

By SARAH BREITENBACH, Associated Press

BELTSVILLE, Md. (AP) — With Maryland legalizing gay marriage, some conservative opponents and religious leaders are counting on members of their congregations, especially in black churches, to upend the legislation at the polls this fall.

Many African American church leaders oppose gay marriage in the liberal-leaning state that's nearly one-third black, and President Barack Obama's re-election campaign is expected to drive many of their congregants to the polls. Opponents submitted draft language for a ballot referendum to overturn the measure just after it passed the Legislature last week.

Gov. Martin O'Malley signed the bill into law Thursday, and it takes effect in January 2013.

Over the weekend, some pastors at predominantly black churches were already using their sermons to shop the referendum effort to their congregations, asking members to sign up for email alerts, put their name on petitions and overturn the law come November. The Catholic Church, which has 1.2 million parishioners in Maryland, has also openly opposed the bill.

A Sunday service at the Hope Christian Church in Beltsville was filled with murmurs of agreement as a spokeswoman for the Maryland Marriage Alliance rallied the mostly black congregation against the law.

"We will have the last say on how marriage will be defined in Maryland," spokeswoman Dee Powell shouted repeatedly to the audience of several hundred.

Some churchgoers said they are bound by their faith to vote against gay marriage.

"It's a personal value and opinion. It has nothing to do with President Barack Obama," said 54-year-old DeBorah Martinez, who has attended Hope Christian for three years.

When a gay marriage bill fell short in the legislature last year, black pastors were given much of the credit for pressuring lawmakers to oppose it. The measure was pulled from the floor of the House as leaders realized if fell short of the needed votes.

Opposition from black pastors in Maryland belies an overall political stance that routinely includes their endorsement of Democratic candidates and support for their agendas.

Opponents will need to collect nearly 56,000 valid voter signatures, equivalent to 3 percent of the people who cast ballots in the 2010 gubernatorial election, to put the measure on the November ballot. Even gay marriage advocates expect the referendum to end up on the ballot.

Six states and the District of Columbia currently recognize gay marriages. The state of Washington has also legalized gay marriage, and its law takes effect in June. Voters there are expected to petition the measure to referendum this fall.

Maine legalized the unions for same-sex couples in 2009, but later that year became the only state overturn a such a law passed by a legislature.

Meanwhile, about 30 states have constitutional amendments that seek to prohibit gay marriage, most by defining marriage as between a man and a woman.

Donald Norris, chairman of the department of public policy at the University of Maryland, Baltimore County, said black churches could heavily influence the referendum, but liberal voters who come out to support Obama could offset the votes against same-sex marriage.

A number of factors could tip the vote on a referendum, Norris said. For example, a weak Republican presidential candidate could mean conservative voters stay home and don't cast ballots against the law.

"It's going to really depend upon a variety of things that are going to happen between now and November," Norris said.

Gay marriage advocates are hoping that young voters — whom they expect to support their cause — will turn out for Obama as they did in 2008.

"I think Obama's election turns out a number of different people," said Sultan Shakir, campaign manager for Marylanders for Marriage Equality, a coalition of gay rights groups that worked to get the bill passed. "(There is) a lot of attention around people who attend church, but there are plenty of other demographics who are going to be turned out."

The advocates also think it is inappropriate to leave what they consider a civil rights issue to the discretion of voters.

"It's sad to me that anyone would think that it's OK to put up the rights of a minority to a popular vote," said Lisa Polyak, chairwoman of the board of directors for the gay rights organization Equality Maryland. "We have children, we have lives, we have jobs and we just want to go about them with integrity."

Proponents of gay marriage are also counting on religious leaders who support of the bill to influence their congregations and for labor unions to urge their members to vote to keep gay marriage legal. Some black pastors who supported the measure as a matter of civil rights appeared publicly with O'Malley, a Democrat, during the legislative debate.

Babatunde Adedayo, a 29-year-old from Upper Marlboro, said the president and his stance on gay marriage will likely influence his peers in November. Obama supports civil unions, but has not endorsed marriage for same-sex couples

"I think this affects every facet of our culture," Adedayo said after the service at Hope Christian. "As a black African American in America, it is something the black church takes seriously and depending on Barack Obama's stance on this, it will affect a lot of people."

Divorce, Kids, and Pets...

I just read a great article on Pet Custody and Divorce and agree with the commentators. See a copy of the article below: Pet custody: Divorce battles get hairy

(http://www.heraldsun.com.au/news/breaking-news/pet-custody-divorce-battles-get-hairy/story-e6frf7jx-1226285810628)

THEY still fight like cats and dogs in divorce court. But more and more they are fighting about cats and dogs.

Custody cases involving pets are on the rise across the United States.

In a 2006 survey by the 1600-member American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, a quarter of respondents said pet custody cases had increased noticeably since 2001. The academy is due for another survey, but there is no doubt such cases have grown steadily since then, said Ken Altshuler of Portland, Maine, a divorce lawyer and AAML president.

If there is a child involved in a divorce, many judges will keep the pet with the child, lawyers said.

"But what do you do when the pet is the child?" Mr Altshuler asked.

Breakups in same-sex marriages, civil unions and domestic partnerships are among reasons pet custody fights have become more common, lawyers said.

Pet custody cases have grown as much as 15 per cent in his office over the last five years, said lawyer David Pisarra of Santa Monica.
He is his own best example. He shares custody of eight-year-old Dudley, a longhaired standard black-and-tan dachshund, with his ex, who has remarried and introduced a step-dog to Dudley.

Pet consultant Steven May hired Mr Pisarra six years ago to handle his divorce. Besides a daughter, May and his ex worked out custody of three dogs, two cats and Tequila the parrot.

Mr Pisarra and Mr May became good friends and often take their dogs for walks in Santa Monica. They also teamed up last year to write a book about co-parenting a pet with an ex titled "What About Wally?"

Pets are considered property in every state in America. For years, they have been divvied up like furniture during divorce proceedings. But times are changing.

"Judges are viewing them more akin to children than dining room sets. They are recognising that people have an emotional attachment to their animals," Altshuler said.

"There is a shifting consciousness," Mr Pisarra said. "Pets are being given greater consideration under the law."

Don't Ask Don't Tell... Well I Am TELLING!!!

The debate of same sex couples and what "legal status" they should have is coming to a breaking point.  The article below is one reason why our country and our states need to take a hard stance on whether or not they are for or against gay marriage and/or legal unions. All I can say is THANK YOU to all of the soldiers and their families, including Marine Brandon Morgan for serving our country.

The following article is by Liz Goodwin ( http://news.yahoo.com/blogs/author/liz-goodwin/) 

Five months after the military's ban on openly gay service expired, a photo of a young gay Marine's homecoming kiss has gone viral. Nearly 15,000 people have liked the picture on Facebook, which was posted in a group for gay Marines on Saturday. The Marine, Brandon Morgan, posted a response on his Facebook wall according to the JoeMyGod blog. "To everyone who has responded in a positive way. My partner and I want to say thank you. Dalan, the giant in the photo, can't believe how many shares and likes we have gotten on this. We didn't do this to get famous,or something like that we did this cause after 3 deployments and four years knowing each other, we finally told each other how we felt," Morgan wrote. He responded to "haters" who criticized him for kissing in uniform. "If the Sergeants Major, Captains, Majors, and Colonels around us didn't care...then why do you care what these random people have to say?" In December, two female naval petty officers became the first same-sex couple to share the traditional first kiss on the pier when the ship returned from an 80-day deployment.

 

 

“My friends, welcome to the other side of the rainbow…”

Same Sex couples in the State of Washington will be legally recognized starting June 7, 2012. Washington is currently the 7th state in the nation to allow same sex marriage. (http://www.reuters.com/article/2012/02/14/us-gaymarriage-washington-idUSTRE81C15L20120214)  No matter your thought on the topic it seems as though there will be a showdown with the Supreme Court. Advocates for same sex marriages argue that same sex couples should be treated just like everyone else. Detractors argue that the sanctity of marriage will be destroyed and marriage may not be taken seriously.

Currently, same sex marriage is legal in New York, Connecticut, Iowa, Massachusetts, New Hampshire, Vermont and Washington, D.C. The New Jersey legislature has a bill and a vote is expected sooner than later.(http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052970204795304577221583559328396.html)

Even  though the State of Florida does not allow or recognize same sex marriage, the city of Orlando has allowed a Domestic Partnership Registry. (http://www.cityoforlando.net/cityclerk/domestic_partnership.htm) The Domestic Partnership Registry addresses same sex couples many rights that same sex couples are entitled to. (http://www.cityoforlando.net/cityclerk/domestic_partnership/dp_faq[2].pdf)